An Amazing Letter From a Dear Friend

(This is Alana)

Last night at about 9:30 pm my doorbell rang. I wasn't expecting anyone and to be honest was so busy running around that I was sort of annoyed that someone was at my door. I figured that maybe it was a door to door salesman as we do get a lot of those. Needless to say it was not a salesman but one of my bestest and oldest friends Heidi. She had come to send her love and give me a letter to read while Spencer was in surgery. The letter was so incredibly powerful and amazing that I had to share it right now. (And frankly it has given me something to do to take my mind of this horrendous waiting)

So here goes...

The risks are low, but the stakes are high.
The expectation is perfection, yet the anticipation brings frustration.
The waiting is the hardest part, yet you know it will be all worth it in the end.
Today marks the first big steps on a journey that began 10 months ago.
It all began with uncertainty...why, what and how?
Over time, the answers slowly became clearer.
We know the what and the how, but the why is forever a mystery.
I think the why is because Spencer is special.
It takes a certain kind of person to be able to make their way through life while facing difficulties and thanks to your selfless decision, and putting fears aside, Spencer will hopefully have fewer difficulties to face.

The skilled hands at work will correct what nature failed to complete. Their expertise will be obvious once the scars have healed. It will all be worth it.

I'm sure you've cried a thousand tears. Tears from fear, tears from anger and tears from uncertainty. But just remember that by shedding those tears, you may have spared Spencer from shedding some of his own, at the hands of cruel and mean children and even adults. Your tears, mean less for him. Well done!

I am proud of the decision you and Steve have made to do this for Spencer and although this waiting is killing you both, you will be thankful and happy when it's all done.  When the doctor finally emerges and comes to tell you that everything was perfect, the weight of the world will be lifted from your shoulders. It's a hard burden to carry for 10 months. It's a lot of heavy emotions and confusing feelings to deal with, but alas, they are soon to be over and hopefully, never thought of again.

My whole life's philosophy has been that everything happens for a reason. And when struck with adversity , it is hard to swallow those words, and not ask why. G-d only gives us as much as we can handle. You, Steve,Eidan and both your families are more than strong enough to help Spencer make a speedy recovery and go back to being his playful, happy self.

We will be thinking of Spencer and all of you today, and sending good vibes your way.

We're here if you need anything, just call, e-mail, tweet, text, or BBM...you're bound to reach us one way or the other :)

Heidi, Brian, Joely and Arley  <3